Melinda Cates, Author Spotlight

I MAKE a difference – is an experiential internal adventure for you to unravel and heal your conditioned self to reconnect to your true self.

This a self-help book that explores and deals with the reality, depths and breadths of who you are, what you experience internally and what it takes to truly get to know, reclaim and develop yourself. 

The experiences in your outside world are impacting your inside world. The process in this book enables you to understand your internal process, to know how you operate naturally, how you truly fit within you-the true you. As well as exploring the key aspects of you that prevent you from truly being happy within you and the world. These are the parts of you to unravel and heal and then your inside world will impact your outside world.

This book develops your awareness, understanding, and ability to manage effectively your emotional, mental, energy and physiological conditioning, and the impacts they have on your life, your relationships and most importantly your connection to who you truly are.

I Make a Difference is about you, for you, to discover and strengthen more of your connection to the true you.

Your connection to the true is where you: 
•    know who you truly are
•    feel comfortable and content within yourself
•    are free of being impacted by others
•    know what is true and right for you  
•    reclaim your complete trust of yourself
•    own the powerful and amazing qualities at the core of you
•    connect to the acceptance and love you have of you
•    express the limitless potential within you
•    are the natural and unconditioned you

The tools and processes within these pages will enable you to effectively work through any situation in your life that triggers processing from your past. Processing where you feel confused, lost, useless and even overwhelmed.

With clarity, you will understand how you became who you are today and who you truly are. As well as, how you became conditioned and why. 

You will know the behaviors, emotions and underlying issues that require your attention for you to unravel and heal, which will dissolve the hold they have had on you.

The powerful self-facilitation activities will develop your ability to work through the processing you experience so that you become more self-reliant in managing your emotional well-being. 

You will take back your personal power—your ability to influence your life, as you make conscious choices based on knowing what is true and right for you.

When you finish reading I Make a Difference, you will have reclaimed, grown and strengthened your connection to the true you and have the tools and resources to make more of a difference to you.

Hello book lovers! Today is a day where I will be writing another author spotlight for a well-accomplished author whose work I have loved. As you know book lovers I love learning about authors and the inspiration behind their work, it fascinates me and adds to the depth of the book because the reader will be able to better understand it. That is how the author spotlights were created because I soon discovered that you lovely readers ALSO love learning about author’s, so I am excited to tell you a little bit more about author Melinda Cates whose book I Make a Difference captivated and moved me from beginning to end. I personally would recommend this book to all of those that love self-help and poignant books but really the book can be read by anybody as it is flawlessly written and highly enjoyable. With today’s author spotlight, a biography of the author and an interview between me and Melinda Cates will be shared, and I hope that you book lovers enjoy reading it! To kick this off here is an author bio about the wonderful Melinda Cates!

My formative life experiences impacted me in that I disliked who I was, however I knew there was more to me, something that was precious inside me, that I could not connect to so how could anyone else. So I spent most of my life studying myself and discovering the answers, tools, and processes within myself, so I could find and become me, the true me. I spent years immersed in my own self development, and in developing my own way of self-facilitating and facilitating others. I designed the I Make a Difference (IMAD) Personal Development Program in 2000, the I Make a Difference Onion Model being the foundation of the process. Now I have written the I Make a Difference book.

For over fifteen years I have facilitated and walked beside thousands of individuals in business, in the Department of Corrections, disengaged youth, individuals with disabilities and workplace injuries, migrants and refugees, traditional owners the Aboriginal people of Australia, long term unemployed and members of the general public who have made a difference to themselves, their families, their workplace, their communities and their lives.

During the years of delivering the, I Make a Difference programme, I experienced participants developing personal empowerment to facilitate their own process and change the outcomes they experienced in their interactions with others and themselves. I have seen and heard people standing in their personal power, sharing their love with themselves and others, and giving themselves permission to be who they truly are. And among the experiences that caught my breath included a man who shared with me that his young child told him, “I have my daddy back”.

My greatest joy is supporting others to explore and work through their processing, and find their true selves to live a life of groundedness, freedom, gentleness, and strength.

To learn more about me and the I Make a Difference books, the I Make a Difference Personal Exploration Program, workshops, and one-on-one personal processing sessions, please check out my website—or send me an email

Now, how wonderful does Melinda Cates sound?! Melinda Cates is a truly exceptional writer and I hope that you lovely readers have a read of the author’s work because you will not regret it! Please see below an interview between me and the author and I hope that you enjoy Melinda Cates’s answers to my questions, they are incredible and provide some great advice too!

Could you please tell us readers about your book and what inspired you to write your book?

I Make a Difference: A process to unravel and heal the layers from your past and discover the jewel within.

I Make a Difference takes readers on an adventure internally exploring the mental, emotional, physiological and energy aspects of themselves. They are guided to develop their awareness and understanding of how during their life they have been conditioned to suppress and protect themselves from their emotions, the beautiful aspects of themselves and their true self. This conditioning impacts us each moment of the day.

The I Make a Difference Onion Model process, as described in the book, details the conditioned behaviors, emotions and underlying issues that contribute to the disconnection from who we truly are, for the purpose of easy identification of them and understanding of why they are being experienced. Tools, approaches and processes are shared throughout the book to assist in unravelling of this conditioning, healing of the emotions, and reclaiming of the connection with your true self. This is why the integration process, beliefs, emotional reactions, learning and lesson processes are explored in detail.

The book was described as being “the mentor” to the reader, in guiding you through your own processing. Processing from your past does surface as you explore the landscape of your inner world, through reading the book.

Interesting, I was inspired in 2000 to design and create the I Make a Difference Onion Model and the Personal Development Programme (which has been delivered face to face for many years) so the I Make a Difference book collection – of which this is the first book, was more ‘I knew’ I was to write it. The reason I knew I was to write it, was for my own growth, in expressing more of my ability. In addition, it was to make it possible for more people to have the opportunity to be facilitated through the IMAD process, so they could make more of a difference to themselves and strengthen their connection to their true self.

What would your advice be for aspiring writers?

Three key elements for me in this process were and are:

  1. Unravel any conditioning you have around how you generally and previously have worded and expressed things, and open yourself up to new, creative information and processes to flow out of you.
  2. Care and invest in what you are doing. Don’t just write, write because you are expressing who you are and do it to the best of your ability, through learning about yourself in the process.
  3. The absolutely essential thing I discovered – find the people who are as invested in what you are doing, as you are. People who genuinely and sincerely care about your work, about achieving the outcome you want, who aspire to put the same level of commitment, love and passion into it.

In your opinion, what is the most important thing about a book? 

That your reader experiences your book, rather than just get a quick fix feel-good experience. A real internal experience – then it is lasting.

What is your writing process like?

I trust my process and I trust and go with the natural process of what comes to me. I run with the information that comes from within me at the time I experience it and I capture it. And each time I capture it, it clears the space for further processing to happen and surface, so I get greater distinctions, ideas and information. I know what will be covered in the book, the key areas, however writing the chapters is random i.e. I might start with chapter six then three, then ten and then seven. (this would no doubt be different for fiction) Generally, the first and last chapter are the last ones I write. As how can I truly know what is in the book until it is complete or almost complete.

With this book, I loved how my editor would ask me questions which supported me to go to greater depths and gain greater distinctions in the areas being explored in the book. I am now conscious of doing this to myself as I write.

Do you have a set schedule for writing, or do you only write when you feel inspired?

I write when I know it is right for me. If I am not getting any flow of information and processing, then I go for a walk, as I know that either my system needs time out or there is processing happening that I am not fully aware of, so going for a walk gives me the space to become aware of it. I do consciously put the intent out to write most days, however if there are days where there is nothing, I will not force it, as this goes against my natural process and flow (as long as I am not avoiding, then this is a different story).

Do you read much and if so who are your favorite authors?

I read fiction books. I love David Baldacci, especially his character Amos Decker. The reason I love Amos is his processing is very different and it intrigues me. I love Lee Child and Jack Reacher. I love John Connolley and his character Charlie Parker, who also processes very differently and works in worlds that have different elements and dimensions to them. Then I love James Pattersons, for quick reads that keep my attention.

Lastly, when can we readers expect to read more wonderful books from you?  

In the next six months if not sooner, then hopefully the following two books of the collection within the following twelve months. I also intend to write other books, which will go into greater detail about some of the areas in the collection. There will also be online training programmes.

Its official book lovers, I am obsessed with Melinda Cates! If you have liked what you have read about the author and are interested in learning more, then please do have a browse of the links below and be sure to have a read of the preview too! You will not regret it.

Goodbye for now book lovers,

Amazon U.S. – Amazon U.K. – Goodreads

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